20 Questions to Change Your Life - Part 1

Hey Queens! From time to time we must take a look at our lives and queendom to ensure that we are ruling as we should. Sometimes just a few questions can show you the right direction in your life.

Asking the right questions can help you learn a lot about yourself and understand yourself on a deeper level. This deeper level is your subconscious that stores your deep childhood wounds, and without becoming aware of it, your life and actions are controlled by it.

An unexamined life isn't worth living. " - Socrates

These questions will help you direct your focus and make you think and see things you may not have seen before.

Without understanding and knowing yourself, you

cannot change your life because you cannot move

forward without knowing what to change precisely.

The questions you ask yourself or fail to ask yourself can alter the course of your life.

Every once in a while we review our lives and do what I call "cleaning house". I analyze my day and every few months my life and my world. Newsflash....people who were worthy on your time and attention last year may not fit into your world this year! Shocking isn't it? Which brings us to the very first question.

I will share some of my answers/experiences on some of the questions.

QUESTIONS 1-10

Q1 - Which activities and people are a waste of your time?

We all have habits and relationships that are just a waste of time, distractions.

Think about your activities, habits, and the people around you who cost you more than what their worth is. Next, think about the people who drag you down more often than support you. Finally, think about the people around you who cannot accept you for who you are, including your individual opinions and beliefs.

I recently ended a forty plus year friendship that my other friends and family suggested I end years ago. I continued the friendship mainly because it was my oldest friendship. However, this person was not supportive, a constant naysayer and everything was a competition. I realized that I had outgrown the friendship years ago, but continued it. I finally had had enough because on more than one occasion I had told this person about their behavior and it would stop for a little while then start again.

Q2 - When did you feel the most alive, the most passionate about something in your past? What was that?

Try to remember the things, hobbies and conversations that made you feel passionate and alive. What were these things?

Why did these stir you up? These can help you find your purpose, your why.

My feel good moments are when I'm creative. Anything from try a new recipe to crafts to writing "stirs me up" and I love to share my creations.

Q3 - What are your long-term plans and goals? In the next 10 years, 5 years, and 2 years?

What is the overall objective, the overall goal of your life?

What is your vision?

What do you want to achieve? Long-term goals/plans are essential in giving you direction. Use these long-term visions, to create shorter-term milestones, and you can turn those milestones into actionable steps and routines.

Breaking long-term goals into small actionable steps to increase the probability of your success.

Clarify your goals and write them. Keep reminding yourself about them. Do 1-3 things each day that will help you achieve your goal. Create a vision board.

For me, HERE WE ARE! The idea for Beautiful Life Fit came to me several years ago after a good friend suggested that I share my wealth of knowledge. I jumped with both feet, hustled hard then boom...everything stalled. My mistake was I tried to do too much all at once. I didn't break the long term goal into smaller actionable steps. It wasn't until I did that I began to see progress in building this site and adding content.

Q4 - What are the most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow?

By creating weekly and daily plans, you can maximize your productivity and get more things done.

It is vital to have some plan and flexibility in your day for unforeseen things.

Write down your plan as a to-do list, and then prioritize the things that need to be done.

Tomorrow, Lord willing, I will continue this journey with you Queens and hope to help you succeed in achieving your goals.

Q5 - Are you living life according to what YOU believe in, or staying in your comfort zone?

Many people settle for security and live their lives in the safe harbor, in the comfort zone, while feeling like something is missing from their lives. You can do both, you know. You just have to be mindful of far out is too far.

We all need some courage to stand up for what we believe in, and there is no courage without fear. This is the path to freedom and individuality.

To create BLF, I had to step out of my comfort zone. I'm not a social media lover however, to reach the Queens that is my target audience, I had to utilize social media.

Q6 - What can you do to improve your most important relationships?

Think and write down your most important relationships. Who are they? Why are they important to you?

Can you make the relationship even better? How?

Do you listen with an open heart and an open mind to these people?

Q7 - What is your happiest or favorite childhood memory? Why?

Think and write down your favorite childhood memory or memories. When did it happen? What were you doing when it happened?

Why is it your happiest childhood memory?

Can you recreate it as an adult?

I love holidays so I have carried on family traditions and created new ones.

Q8 - What is one thing you would like to change about the world?

What is the main thing you would like to change about the world?

Are there many more other things?

Why did you pick this thing?

Does it have to do anything with your childhood wound? Can you live your life in a way that would support in any way this change?

This question is so vast. I would end poverty and violence, period.

Q9 - What would you differently if nobody judged you? Would you live your life differently?

Many people live their lives according to social norms while repressing their authentic selves to fit in, to be accepted by others. My biggest pet peeve with social media, is that so many people have access to the lives of other people and feel the need to by standards that are often falsified.

Wearing a social mask is essential from time to time to a certain degree, but when it becomes way too often, we can become disconnected from our true selves.

People judge what and who they cannot understand. It is easier to judge than trying to understand and accept. Identifying what you would do differently can help you connect to your TRUE SELF. Be TRUE to yourself!

It is difficult to NOT conform but remember that you are uniquely YOU by GOD'S design so never apologize for that.

Q10 - Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?

Many people hold onto things that no longer serve them and hold them back. These things can be old self-limiting beliefs, objects we cannot let go of, and even friendships or relationships that become toxic, but we are too afraid to let these things and people go because it would mean that this part of ourselves has to go as well.

It requires change, and change can be scary. BE the change that you want to see in the world, your family, your Queendom!

Focus on self-limiting beliefs that no longer serve you when writing your list. Analyze and reflect on where come from then correct.

I hope these questions got your royal brain to thinking. Look for the second group of questions, which will be coming soon. Until then, RULE WELL!

Love 'til next time, Queen B.